FIXED VS GROWTH MINDSET: HOW OUR THINKING SHAPES OUR EVERYDAY EXPERIENCES
Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “I’m just not good at this,” or “I’ll never figure this out”? These kinds of thoughts often stem from what’s known as a fixed mindset – the idea that our abilities and intelligence are set in stone. Over time, this way of thinking can quietly shape how we feel about ourselves, our confidence, and how we respond to life’s challenges.
On the other hand, a growth mindset is the belief that we can develop and improve over time, especially when we put in effort, ask for support, and stay open to learning.
This concept comes from psychologist Dr Carol Dweck, whose research at Stanford University found that people who lean into a growth mindset are more likely to try new things and persist through difficulties. That doesn’t mean being endlessly optimistic or ignoring reality – it’s more about how we make sense of challenges and what we believe is possible.
Let’s say someone’s having a tough time with maths. A fixed mindset might say, “I’ve never been good at this, so what’s the point?” A growth mindset, though, might sound more like, “This is tricky right now, but I can get better with some help and practice.” It’s a subtle shift, but it can make a real difference in how we approach problems – and how we feel about ourselves.
How to Cultivate a Growth Mindset
A growth mindset isn’t something we either have or don’t – it’s something we can develop gently over time. Here are a few ways to begin:
Listen to how you talk to yourself
When things are hard, do you shut down or get curious? Try swapping “I can’t do this” for “I’m still figuring this out.”Celebrate the effort, not just the outcome
It’s easy to focus only on results, but the trying – showing up, learning, making mistakes – that’s where growth actually happens.Let mistakes be part of it
Everyone gets it wrong sometimes. It doesn’t mean you’ve failed – it just means you’re learning.Be open to feedback
It can be hard to hear, but often it’s feedback that helps us grow the most… even when it’s a bit uncomfortable.Be kind to yourself
Growth takes time. It’s okay if things don’t click straight away. The important part is sticking with it.
In therapy, we often explore how our core beliefs – many shaped in childhood – can influence our mindset. Recognising these patterns is a powerful first step toward shifting them.
At the end of the day, we’re all a work in progress. Whether you’re learning something new, navigating a tricky time, or simply trying to be a little kinder to yourself, adopting a growth mindset can offer steady support along the way. If this resonates, you might like to explore it further in conversation with a trusted therapist or in a supportive group setting.
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