I DON’T HAVE ANYTHING TO TALK ABOUT IN MY SESSION
Some of us may feel like we only need therapy when something stressful or upsetting has occurred, and we are in crisis. After receiving such support, we start to feel better, and it is easy to simply say “I don’t need therapy anymore”. We may even think “I’m sad, but not sad enough to see my therapist”. However, therapy is not only for days when you feel your lowest. Just because you are not sad now, does not mean you shouldn’t take steps towards preventative care. Similarly, this does not mean there is nothing for you and your therapist to talk about.
It is a common misconception that you need to be in pain to seek therapy. When you’ve been injured, it’s easy to put on a band-aid. However, if the injury is more complex, we know that a band-aid will not suffice. Therapy can be likened to the deep cleaning of the wound, facilitating the healing process. Although it may be painful, it will help you gain the ability to cope with your stressors in the long run.
You may even feel like “other people are suffering more than I am, therefore I don’t deserve treatment”. The mere fact that others could have it worse does not mean that you do not need therapy. It is easy to compare ourselves to others, but we must understand that our struggles are unique. Everyone experiences emotions and events differently, hence there is no “right” or “wrong” way to cope. Your pain is valid, and you are deserving of care and support. It’s always okay if you need a helping hand, even if you’re not entirely sure why.
When you think you have nothing to talk about in your session, this may actually be the best time to attend therapy. It gives your therapist the opportunity to delve deeper into the issues you’ve been facing. Sometimes you and your therapist will be addressing the problems that are on the surface of your consciousness – or, the tip of the iceberg. When you feel like there’s nothing pressing to discuss with your therapist, then it is time to look at the multitude of factors that may be lying beneath the surface. Therapy is not always about “fixing” your problems. Rather, it involves gaining self-awareness, developing strategies to help us cope with life’s curveballs, and helping us become more resilient. For this reason, staying consistent with our therapy is the key to healing.
In summary, you don’t need a huge reason to attend therapy, nor do you need to know exactly what it is you will be talking about.